Luckily the occasion wasn't all about me

Lately a number of people I know have had friends or family die of old age. At times like this, one needs to say and do the right thing to show support and sympathy. Unfortunately, my good wishes are paired with a lack of grace.

At the funeral of Joe's mother, Joe asked me at the last minute if I would be one of the pallbearers. My brain thought, "That would be an honor indeed, because your mother was always generous and treated all her guests just like family. I would be proud to share a little in the burden of your family's grieving by helping carry your deceased mother's casket." While those were my thoughts, my mouth blurted, "That would be great!"